Nowadays parenting comes in many various forms and styles. Analyze them first before you make your final decision on how to bring your child up. Consult a specialist who can help you avoid making mistakes. What parents do is not always right. Here are a few main myths we still believe in.
1. Authoritarian upbringing of kids is the best parenting style
Parents who are looking for the best solution to problems in upbringing their children might still believe that the authoritarian style can be the only way to deal with issues. Unfortunately, this style does more harm than good. Being grown in a strict family is psychologically very difficult. Your child will never feel loved or happy if he is supposed to follow dozens of rules. A kid cannot meet strict requirements set by adults. Obedience may sometimes come from fear, which is another bad thing.
2. Kids should be grown up in a full family
Two-parent families are not always happy. Being grown by both mom and dad is nice only if both parents agree with each other, love their kids and feel happy. There are too many unhappy couples who are trying to bring kids up. They usually fail to make their children happy since they do not know what is needed. You will never make your child happy unless you know what happiness
3. Parents are supposed to be the best kid’s friends
Quit trying to be your kid’s peer. You are his parent and you are the person your child depends on. Your child should feel loved, safe and protected by you. Be authority to you children rather than a buddy they can disobey or ignore.
4. You should guarantee that your child will live in luxury
Children are too young to understand what luxury is. Material things should not be of their main interest. They do need good toys and education as well as clothes and food. However, spoiling you kid with unnecessary luxurious items is not a must at all.
5. If your child cries it means he is unhappy
Happy children sometimes cry, too. This is natural and you should not blame yourself for having made a mistake if you see tears. Not only sufferings and conflicts can make your kid burst into tears. Do not worry if your kid cries. Crying is a normal psychological response to children’s’ emotional condition.